Have Selective Memory
Impact others with selective memory.
Everyone’s journey is laced with failures and defeats. In our minds, the negative lives rent free. We don’t need to be reminded of the miss, as the defeats have a loud voice.
As a leader, the easy road is to build on this negative narrative, point out flaws, accentuate the misses. The momentum of a negative narrative about an individual places a glass ceiling on their future endeavors, instilling doubt in abilities.
Be a change agent in another’s life.
Build others up by emphasizing wins or positive qualities, those things that others may not recognize. Create a positive narrative for someone, and a new story will be created.
Great leaders have selective memory.
They accentuate the positive and lift with praise. They have an ability to raise someone’s performance beyond what they imagined.
You see college coaches doing this consistently as they travel the journey of the season. Next time you catch an interview with a coach and a player, listen to the intentional praise by the coach. They recall wins, victories, moments, qualities that make that player special. Public praise to an extreme. And that player’s performance peaks.
When the road traveled is uphill, the mention of a “remember when” victory or praise makes the daunting journey seem achievable. Energy, ambition, and motivation are pulled out of another by articulating previous victories.
Performance begins to exceed ability.
People need this coach. Kids need this from mom and dad. Spouses need this from each other. We all need this in our lives.
Scripture: John 8:1-11
Impact others. Live generously.
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